Simply Smart Tips: January 2008

Like the 2 Sides of a Coin

Love can feel like heaven,
and could hurt like hell...

It's true that to have the rose,
you must accept the thorns...

And if you have the courage to love,
you must have the courage to suffer...

Don't force yourself to forget the person you love and never use other people to forget him because it hurts more when the time for goodbyes come. An emotion can play its tricks on us. Who knows, it could backfire and you'll end up losing when all the way you thought you'd win.

For the girls inlove

"You won’t be his first, his last, or his only. He’s loved before, he will love again. But if he loves you now, what else matters? He is not perfect, and neither are you; and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he makes you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and admits to being human, and making mistakes… hold on to him, and give him all you’ve got.

He is not going to quote poetry. He is not going to be thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you can break. Don’t hurt him. Don’t change him. Don’t expect too much from him. Smile when he makes you happy. Cry when he makes you sad… and miss him when he’s not there…"

~~quoted from a testimonial message~~

For the Men Inlove

Tell her how you admire her.
Always tell her you love her at all times.
When she's upset, hold her tight.
Pick her over all the other girls you hang out with.
Play with her hair.
Pick her up.
Tickle her and wrestle upon her.
Just talk to her.
Tell her jokes.
Bring her flowers.
Hold her hand and run.
Just hold her hand.
Throw pebbles at her window at night.
Let her fall asleep in your arms.
Sing to her, no matter how awful you sound.
Get her mad at you. Then kiss her.
Give her piggy bank rides.
Push her on swings.
Tell her she looks beautiful.
When she's sad, stay on the phone with her, even if she's not saying anything.
Look into her eyes and smile.
Kiss her on her forehead.
Dance with her even if there's no music.
Kiss her in the rain.
And when you fall in love with her, tell her.

How To Stay Young -- Grow Old Gracefully

Thirteen Positive Recommendations

A. Throw out non-essential numbers. Remember only birthdays and anniversaries.

B. Keep only cheerful friends.

C. Keep learning.

D. Enjoy the simple things.

E. Laugh often, long and loud.

F. Tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on.

G. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

H. Surround yourself with kids.

I. Surround yourself with what you love.

J. Cherish your health.

K. Don't take guilt trips. Avoid places where your guilt is.

L. Tell the people you love that you love them.

M. Lastly, always remember that life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breaths away.

More here...

"Every day is a great day; if you don't believe it ... try missing one!" --- Anonymous

How to Recognize Skin Cancer

Do you know the early signs of skin cancer?

There are two primary categories of skin cancer: melanoma and non-melanoma. Melanoma skin cancers primarily affect pigmented types, and occur when the pigment cells that produce skin color become cancerous.

Melanoma

Consider whether you have any of the traits that predispose people to melanoma:

Freckled skin: In particular, those with fair skin and freckles are at a higher risk for melanoma. The gene that causes freckles, MC1R, also seems to play a role in melanoma formation.
Red hair: That MC1R gene? It also contributes to the development of red hair.
History of damage: If you sunburn easily, or have a history of many sunburns, pay particular attention to changes in your skin.
Family history: If anyone in your family has been diagnosed with melanoma, you are at greater risk for developing it.

The most important thing you can do is familiarize yourself with the map of your body's beauty marks and freckles - that way, you can note any changes or fast-growing moles. If you notice one of the A, B, C, or Ds of melanoma, see a dermatologist right away:

Asymmetry: Moles of an irregular shape, in which one side is not the mirror image of the other
Borders: Moles that have a fuzzy or indistinct border
Color: Moles that are more than one color, or include black, white, red, or yellow hues
Diameter: Moles that are larger than a quarter-inch (about the diameter of a pencil eraser)

Non-Melanoma

Like melanoma, non-melanoma skin cancer tends to affect fair-skinned people more than others, although in this case non-pigmented types are at greater risk than pigmented types.

There are two main types of non-melanoma skin cancer:

Basal cell carcinoma (BCC): This type of skin cancer occurs between the dermis and the epidermis. It appears as bumps that are white, shiny, and luminous like a pearl. They can appear with a raised center or like "craters," and may also have tiny blood vessels around their borders. Also, if you notice a scar-like mark on your skin in an area where no injury or trauma has occurred, have it looked at immediately. Sometimes it looks like a translucent bump with a central umbilication or an enlarged pore that suddenly appears.
Squamous cell carcinoma (SCC): This type of skin cancer occurs on the top layer of skin, in sun-exposed areas. It appears as a red, scaling patch that scabs over - unlike a scab, however, these patches don't heal. They may also be covered by a hard white scale.

Early detection is crucial in treating skin cancer. Have annual skin checks, during which your dermatologist can look for any unusual moles or marks (if you have a family history of melanoma or are particularly predisposed to developing it, biannual checks are best). And if you see any suspicious bumps or scabs - particularly those that fit the descriptions above - don't hesitate to see a doctor right away.

Wishing you great skin!

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Dr. Baumann is author of the best-selling book, "The Skin Type Solution." To learn more about her revolutionary skin typing system, visit her Web site. Many of Dr. Baumann's recommended skin care products are available there, and a portion of proceeds goes to The Dermatology Foundation.

SOURCE: Yahoo Health

Pogi Points

In the world of romance, one single rule applies to the men:

Make the woman happy. Do something she likes, and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects. Sorry, that's the way the game is played.

Here is a guide to the point system:

SIMPLE DUTIES
You make the bed (+1)
You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
You go out to buy her what she wants (+5) In the rain (+8) But return with Beer (-5)
You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
It's her pet (-10)

SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS
You stay by her side the entire party (0)
You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college buddy (-2)
Named Rita (-4)
Rita is a dancer (-6)
Rita is single and is really beautiful (-80)

HER BIRTHDAY
You forget her birthday (-50000)
You take her out to dinner (0)
You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the colours of your favourite team (-10)

A NIGHT OUT
You take her to a movie (+2)
You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

YOUR PHYSIQUE
You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to baggy jeans and baggy Hawa iian shirts (-30)
You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-8000)

ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION
She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) [Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]
You hesitate in responding (-10)
You reply, "Where?" (-35)
Any other response (-20)

COMMUNICATION
When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what
looks like a concerned __expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
You listen for more than 30 minutes
without looking at the TV (+500)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10000)

Now what chance do you have???

~~ a repost ~~

Are You Smart?

You wear thick eyeglasses and carry volumes of books in your arms. Inside your bag is a scientific calculator, a pad of paper, all sorts of pens, photocopied materials and other student gadgets. In your head is nothing but arithmetic and computer programs. You love every figure and formula that your teacher introduces during your Geometry class and the matrices of HTML codes is music to your ears. In other words, you’re a nerd, or close to being one. But does it mean you’re smart?

Some people confuse the meaning of “smart” with the definition of “nerd.” Just because you have a straight-A or a series flat-1, it doesn’t mean you’re a certified smart person. According to the dictionary, a nerd person pursues intellectual activities to improve his knowledge rather than engaging himself in social activities such as sports. He is intelligent, yes, but is socially and physically graceless. Worse is, he is unaware of how awkward he is.

A smart person, on the other hand, is someone who shows mental alertness in appropriate situations. He knows what he is doing and is aware of what other people are thinking of him. When he is in a confounding situation, he can confuse and convince others that he is right through his words and actions. In other words, he knows the way out. What’s more, he has many friends and many others would wish to be his friend.

Perhaps the reason why many people confuse a smarty with a nerdy is because a nerd has more potential to become smart. If you’re a nerd, you don’t try hard to excel in your field or fields of intelligence (e.g., verbal-linguistic, math-logic, spatial, musical, etc) coz it just flows in you naturally, if not habitually. Your intelligence is somewhat innate and enhancing it is as easy as eating peanuts.
For you to become smart, you just need to work on your personality (considering that most nerds seem weird; though they feel they are normal). You have to ask yourself: Am I socially acceptable? Do people feel comfortable with me? Am I comfortable with them? Can I keep a good conversation going? Am I versatile enough to adjust to any situation? If your answer to these is yes, without biases, then you must be smart.

To be smart, one doesn’t have to excel in all intelligence areas and brag about it. He just needs to foster the areas he is strong at and randomly learns, as life teaches him the other fields. And since he is smart, he is not a second-rate-trying-hard-copycat. He talks and acts smart naturally. He may have doubts at the back of his mind but he knows how to control his subconscious level.

Most achievers, be it academic or non-academic, are said to be of high intelligence quotient (IQ). They are those who belong to the top three in section A classes and reap medals at the end of the school year. They are usually the thinker, the leader, and the
frontliner. They are the popular, the trusted and the pride of the institution. In short, they are not necessarily nerdy but are smarty because they managed to balance both curricular and extra-curricular activities. However, that doesn’t mean that those at the backstage aren’t smart.

Perhaps you, or the person next to you, are one of the smarty pants out there who avoids the limelight and prefers to keep their smartness to themselves (that isn’t so smart though). Here’s a quiz from allthetests.com that can help determine how smart or how mentally-alert you are. Take time to assess yourself and see if the result boosts up or knocks down your confidence. Get a pen now and write down your answers.

Is there a Fourth of July in England?
1. Yes
2. No

How many birthdays does the average man have?
1. 1
2. 2
3. 3

Some months have 31 days; how many have 28?
1. 2
2. 1
3. 3
4. 12

How many outs are there in an inning?
1. 3
2. 4
3. 5
4. 6

Is it legal for a man in California to marry his widow’s sister?
1. Yes
2. No

Divide 30 by ½ and add 10. What is the answer?
1. 25
2. 35
3. 60
4. 70

If there are 3 apples and you take away 2, how many do you have?
1. 1
2. 2
3. 3

A doctor gives three pills telling you to take one every half hour. How many minutes would the pills
last?
1. 90
2. 60
3. 30

A farmer has 17 sheep, and all but 9 die. How many are left?
1. 17
2. 0
3. 9
4. 8

How many animals of each sex did Moses take on the ark?
1. 1
2. 2
3. millions
4. 0

How many two cent stamps are there in a dozen?
1. 24
2. 12
3. 6
4. 2

Before you read on, review your answers (you don’t want to regret it later). Now cross your fingers and check your answers.

(a) Yes, it comes after the third of July!

(a) Just one.

(d) 12. All months have 28 days!

(d) 6, three per side!

(b) No because he is dead!

(d) 70 (30 divided by ½ equals 60! Takes some thinking…)

(b) 2. You took them, remember?

(b) 60 (Start with 1^st pill; 30 minutes later you take the 2^nd pill; after another 30 minutes, you take the 3^rd one).

(d) 0. Moses didn’t have an ark, Noah did!

(b) 12. There are twelve 2 cent stamps in a dozen.

Now is the moment of truth. Count your scores and refer below for the equivalence. If you scored:

0 = Well, what can I say? Your score looks like an egg.

1 = No comment.

2 – 4 = Maybe you’re good at something else…

5 – 7 = You have normal intelligence.

8 = You must be an honor student.

9 – 11 = This is not the first time you took the test!

The result may be flattering or painful to you but I’m sure it’s worth taking. Now you must have realized that it’s always good to be smart (especially if you scored 8 and above). Everybody wants to be smart but not all have the moral fiber to transform themselves. Work it out. Talk smart. Act smart. Here are some tips to smarten up your personality:

Analyze the situation you’re in.

Close your mouth and open your ears. Talk when spoken to; don’t lie.

Do not talk about personal life.

Read good books.

Learn math. Solve puzzles.

Do not brag. Eat a bit of humble pie.

Listen carefully to others’ opinion. You don’t have to agree; just listen.

Be nice to people. It’s also a sign of maturity and intelligence.

Do things on purpose. Avoid nonsense stuff.

Keep a good hygiene. Brush, bathe and wash daily!

Don’t annoy others on purpose.

Work on your vocabulary.

Speak your mind.

Fail rather than cheat. Have some integrity.

Be friends with smart people who do all of the above.

And one last thing, list down all the tips above in your organizer and practice one tip at a time. Before you realize it, you’re smarter than you think! And because you’re smart, you acknowledge the fact that you cannot always conquer the world with your intelligence (like a smart aleck). Remember, some things in this world are still uncertain and that the world itself could snub you if necessary, regardless of
how smart you are.

Sources: http://www.wikihow.com/, http://www.paulstips.com/, http://www.allthetests.com/, http://wordnet.princeton.edu, and http://en.wikipedia.org

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